Long Distance is a B**CH

Alright everyone, let me just start off by saying that I'm no where near an expert on relationships. All relationships are different and this post is just strictly what I have learned after nearly the two years of being long distance with my boyfriend.

Yes, I know this has NOTHING to do with makeup or beauty products but if you do recall my post from a few days ago that I added in a segment called, "I need to vent..." so congrats, you're now reading the first vent post by me. I'll talk about the good, the bad and the things that I've learned throughout the years that have helped keep my relationship strong.

As many of you may already know, I'm the luckiest girl in the world because I'm dating the greatest guy in the world (beyond cheesy and bias, yes I'm fully aware) and on December 2nd we will celebrate two years together, wow how fun. A year and a half out of those two years we have been long distance. Yes, I do realize that being two hours away from each other is kind of nothing compared to some couples who are in completely different states and I get that that is way harder, but this is about my experience with long distance, or how I sometimes called it, medium distance, and how it affected me and Tyler.

Tyler and I met on Tinder (judge us) in November of 2016 and at the time he was also attending CMU. He lived less than five minutes away from me and we got to hangout whenever we wanted and it was just perfect. Our home towns are only 45 minutes away from each other which is NOTHING but defiantly not as nice as the five minute drive down the street back at school. Come May of 2017, the worst best day ever, Tyler was leaving CMU because of this bittersweet thing called Graduation. This meant, no more quick drives to his apartment or mine, worrying about how much we will be able to see each other when I go back to CMU and the stress of it all. It worried me but here's the thing that helped us, we talked about it, I was extremely open about my feelings and worries. I do this a lot in our relationship, I'm very blunt and always share how I feel because it's extremely important and I encourage him to do the same. You cannot bottle up your feelings or things will turn out bad. Don't get me wrong, I defiantly was afraid to share how I felt sometimes because I didn't want to hurt his feelings but at the end, we always meet in the middle and figure out how to fix our issue.

The first summer after Tyler had graduated, he got a summer job at Chrysler and I was doing my first internship. My work hours were your typical 9-5, holiday's off and weekends off. His was completely different and a shit show. He had crazy hours, worked weekends, and no holidays off. It was extremely tough. Here we were, a couple who spent a majority of their time together at CMU, to barely seeing each other in a week because of this new change in our relationship. It was scary, my anxiety was thru the roof, and I felt very distant, emotionally and physically. But I talked to him about it, not in like a, "omg this is all your fault I'm feeling this way" but a, "hey, we both hate this, let's figure this out together" type of way. We talked it out, we took the time to figure out when he was able to hangout and we made the effort to drive to each others house after work only if it was for a couple hours because it was better than none. We never took advantage of the time we had together that summer because we barely had any of it. At the end of August, my internship came to an end and so was his job at Chrysler (thank you, Jesus). We decided we desperate need a trip away just the two of us so we went to my family's cottage in Harbor Springs and spent an entire week together, just the two of us exploring up north and it was perfect. If it weren't for the positive attitude, being open about our feelings and working it out TOGETHER, our relationship could be very different today.

Although that summer was emotionally hard, it really helped us because I still had a year and a half left at CMU and we continued to be open with each other, figured out when we will see each other in advance and this December I'll finally graduate and we will no longer have those two hours between us. He now has a great job at GM with NORMAL hours and holidays off (let's hope I get that too), and we have plans to get a place together within the upcoming year.

Don't get me wrong, we still have our hard times with the distance and sometimes it causes a small disagreements but I think one of the best things about my relationship with Tyler, like I've been saying, is we talk it out! We may get annoyed with each other from time to time but at the end we always say I'm sorry and I love you and own up to our mistakes.

So if you are going through this long distance drag, you can get through it. If it's with someone you're willing to drop everything for and do ANYTHING for and you love more than pizza or cheese sticks (it's true, I love him more than pizza and cheese sticks and I LOVEEE those foods), then it's sooooooo worth it. I wouldn't change these past two years with Tyler, the bad and the good, for anything (ugh, stop judging how cheesy I am with my relationship *wink wink* ). Love ya, Tyler!